25 June | Youth
«For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.» 1 Corinthians 7:9
God created sex for three purposes: inauguration of marriage, procreation and pleasure. The first sexual relationship is the beginning of marriage. God is a witness to this moment. There is a special blessing for those who wait for divine approval for their union.
The engagement period is very tempting for the couple in the sexual aspect. During this period, the couple is making plans for the altar, intimacy exists and principles are tested at all times.
It is essential that the couple define the limits of their relationship in advance. And each one will become responsible for keeping the “heat” under control. A young man asked me one day what advice about sex I would give to an engaged couple. I answered with a Chinese saying: “Do not heat the water if you are not going to take a shower.” In other words, engagement is not the time to experience a sexual relationship. Therefore, do not allow caresses to prepare the body for something that cannot be done.
In the dating period and engagement, sexual caresses are sinful. In Proverbs 6:27 we read: “Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?” When a girl allows a boy to have physical freedom, the first thing that is compromised in the relationship is respect. And respect is one of the most essential elements in a relationship. Once the process starts, it is much more difficult to stop.
If you resist today, it is easier to have strength tomorrow. By leading your life the right way, the day will come when you can fully enjoy this pleasure that God created for marriage.