12 September | Youth
«So then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.» Mark 10:8, 9
Marriage is not for everyone. Many people are simply not ready to get married. You do not go into a marriage with 50% and your partner with the other 50%. No. Everyone has to give 100%. Only full people are ready to marry.
Living under the same roof all your life is the biggest challenge in the world. Be assured that the person by your side is the only one who could endure life with you forever. Do not think that you are an easy per-son to deal with. You are a sinner who will marry a sinner, and vice versa. One is not better than the other.
In marriage, the Lord commands two willful sinners to become one flesh. In biblical anthropology, a couple forms integral human nature, and one is a complement to the other. God’s purpose is that in marriage man and woman become one flesh, in such intimacy that they cannot be separated. The problem is that we enter this relationship broken by sin, imperfect. Misunderstandings arise because of this theological detail.
It is not easy to live as “one flesh.” There are days when love seems to flow easily. The bills are paid; health, excellent; the day, beautiful; and the companion’s hand is soft. But in others, even the spouse’s gestures seem irritating..
There are many small problems that make the challenge of living as “one flesh” almost impossible. But the world would not be what it is without relationship problems. It is a reality, and we must face it the right way. A complete couple, in which each person contributes 100% to the marriage, is in permanent construction. This is a lifelong work. Do not waste time thinking: “Oh, if I had married so-and-so, maybe I would be happier.”
If you are planning to get married, take advantage of the engagement period to pray more intensely and evaluate all the variables involved. If you are sure, dive in. God’s blessing will be with you. But if you have serious doubts, it is better to postpone the wedding. You cannot make mistakes in this area of life.